Tuesday, 5 February 2013
How do I deal with my husband's big penis?
WE’LL start this conversation with what you said – sex always hurt a little. It is very likely that you are not producing enough lubrication. Lubrication occurs when you are fully prepared for sex. But to play it safe, you may have to visit your gynaecologist for medical examinations to rule out any problem, such as cysts or infections. But, there’s a good chance that you just don’t engage in foreplay long enough to become adequately aroused. So, next time you’re getting busy with your husband, take it slow. Have him lavish attention on all your hot spots, with plenty of genital touching and tongue teasing. And, make sure you apply some water-based lubricant to your vagina or his shaft right before he enters you.
That said, have you stopped to consider that the reason you experienced such severe pain with your husband was probably due to fear? It sounds like the eye-opening encounter of seeing his “huge” member for the first time freaked you out a bit.
Anticipating discomfort causes your muscles — even your vaginal ones — to tense up, making penetration more difficult. So, in addition to extended foreplay and extra lube, it might also help if he gives you a long, sensual all-over massage before intercourse, which will turn you on and mellow you out. Also, these tips I found on the Cosmopolitan may help you out: Stick to shallow positions.
When it comes to doing the deed, you’ll have an easier time accommodating your man’s large penis if you stick with positions that keep his thrusts shallow while sending you both into maximum overdrive. The woman-on-top pose is a good one to try because it lets you control the depth of penetration. Have him lie flat on his back and hover over him on your hands and knees while sliding him inside you. Move your hips in circular motions as you glide up and down, only going as deep as you can handle. Or, have him sit on a chair with no arms. Then simply straddle his lap, either facing toward him or away from him, and use your feet and thigh muscles to pump away.
You can also try the missionary, but remember that the more your pelvis is tilted, the deeper the penetration, so none of those feet-over-his’s shoulders, pillows under your butt stuffs.